We Love Each Other But...

Learn how to communicate in way that the other person can hear you.

It started off great.

There was passion, laughter, excitement, and always something new to talk about. However, overtime some of the initial shininess has worn off.

Now you find yourself stuck in the same argument loop over dirty dishes, missed texts, a lack of feeling heard or understood. It turns out that after the fireworks, you two have different schedules, or different cleanliness preferences, or different ideal ways of socializing.

You're still in this, but you're not sure how to get through to each other, and each time you try, things seem to get more tangled up.

All you want is to find a way to get back on the same page.

Relationship Counseling for the Modern Couple

I help young adults in relationships figure out what they want and how to ask for it.

Together, we'll unpack what's led to where you are now, where you want to go from here, and what each person needs to get there.

We'll figure out whether the things you've been communicating are actually what you want and what the relationship needs to look like for each person to feel loved, understood, and connected.

“taking responsibility—even for a small part of the problem in communication—presents the opportunity for great repair.”
― John M. Gottman

MY SPECIALTIES

Interracial/Intercultural Relationships

So much of being in a relationship is being able to communicate your point of view and understand someone else's. This can be difficult in any relationship, but can feel particularly challenging when you have different lived experiences or when it feels like you come from different worlds. Together, we'll figure out how to bridge the gap, find common ground, and face things as a team.

Anxious-Avoidant Pairs

You meet. You connect. You fall in love. And then...one of you starts asking for more (attention, time, connection). The other person feels pressured and pulls away, which makes the first person push harder. Eventually the anxious partner picks a fight which the avoidant partner, who, well avoids. And the cycle continues. Break out of the loop by getting to the root of what each person needs to feel secure and comfortable with intimacy.

Before the Big Next Step Couples

There's a big decision on the table and you want to make sure you're making the right choice. Whether it's about moving in, getting married, having kids, or staying together, whatever you decide, you want to start your next chapter feeling good about your decision. In our conversations, I'll serve as a facilitator and referee to help you identify the core issues and talk through next steps.

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